Do you ever feel like the law of attraction just isn’t working, no matter how hard you try?
I know I’ve felt like that before. You’re trying so hard to get something you really want, and seeing no results. It’s frustrating!
Especially when you’ve done all the work – you know, you’ve written down the list of everything you want, created the vision board, kept your thoughts positive and STILL…nothing.
You still don’t have the thing you’re trying to manifest.
It’s so easy to get demotivated when it feels like nothing is happening.
And it’s so tempting to just give up and stop bothering with it all. And you know what? That’s what I recommend you do.
Hear me out.
Stop trying to manifest
But not like that. Stop TRYING to manifest. See the difference?
The hardest, but most important part of using the law of attraction is learning to let go.
The moment you truly let go of the things you want, is when they start to come to you.
Coming from a place of need or desperation sends a message to the universe that you don’t really believe your desire is on its way.
If you’ve done the work and you still feel like you need it, you’re not confident that you’re about to manifest it. If you were, that feeling of need would disappear, because you’d know you already have it. Does that make sense?
Don’t wait for your desire to manifest. Once you’ve done the work – as in, written what you want down on paper, visualised yourself getting it by making a vision board or using your mind and eliminated all doubt and fear that you won’t get it – the next thing you need to do is let go.
Go about your daily life and focus on other things. Of course, when your vision board catches your eye you should allow yourself to feel happy and excited that your desire is on its way to you. BUT THAT’S IT.
No more making lists. No more obsessing. No more trying to redo certain things just to make sure that the universe heard you or hasn’t forgotten about you.
Trust me, it hasn’t.
You need to be 100% confident that it’s going to arrive before it will.
Now, I totally understand that getting to a place of 100% confidence is hard. But did you know there are little ways the universe communicates with you, to let you know that what you’ve asked for is on its way to you?
Synchronicity and the law of attraction
Be careful not to write everything off as ‘just as a coincidence’.
If you’re open to receiving signs that you’re about to manifest your desire, the universe will send them to you. This is known as synchronicity or meaningful coincidences.
It can come in many different ways, but you know it’s synchronicity because it feels surreal. For example, your desire might be to manifest a certain car, so you do the work and then all of a sudden you start seeing that car everywhere.
Even though you don’t have the car yet – this is where it’s important to stay faithful and confident you’re going to get it. The universe is telling you it’s on its way to you by constantly showing you what you’re trying to manifest.
Be open to receiving signs from the universe
I find that my signs normally come in the form of repeating numbers, and I usually see them on a digital clock, although once in a while they do come to me in other ways too. I first started seeing them around the time I came up with the idea to start this blog.
I wasn’t 100% sure if I should do it, and to be honest I was very nervous and unsure about putting my life and experiences out there, on a platform to be judged. At the time, I remember meditating and asking if this was the right thing for me to focus my energy on. Then I started seeing the numbers.
At first, every time I would glance at the clock I’d see 11:11. After a few days in a row of seeing this, you know I had to get on Google and find out WTF was going on!
According to numerology, the number 11 is a “master number” which signifies intuition, insight, and enlightenment. When paired together, 11 11 is a clear message from the universe to become conscious and aware. Many people suggest that seeing 11 11 signifies that your spirit guides are attempting to contact you. In my experience, 11 11 seems to be the number of spiritual awakening, signifying that you are on the right path and your actions are aligned with your Soul’s purpose. In other words, seeing 11 11 is a good sign! An energetic doorway is being opened in which you will experience spiritual growth. – Lonerwolf
No joke guys, I saw this number on the clock every day for about 2 weeks straight. I was never looking for it. I’d just happen to look up from what I was doing and it would be there. It was such a surreal feeling every time. And then one day, I totally didn’t see 11:11. Instead, I saw 12:12.
So I hit up Google again like WTF! LOL.
After reading this article, I decided to take it a little more seriously. The writer had spoken about his own experiences with repeating numbers and advised people going through the same to actually ask the universe to show you more. He said that when you ask, you will get a response, but not always in the way that you’re expecting.
So I decided to try. In my head, I just said something like: just to confirm this isn’t all in my imagination, show me another number 12. Show me it on a number plate.
Then I went for a walk. I walked through a car park, which has over 200 cars in it to get to mine, looking at some of the number plates as I passed. I only saw ONE with a 12 on it. But I felt no jolt, nothing surreal. It wasn’t the universe. And thinking back now, if I really did see a 12 (that I wasn’t looking for), I would have definitely put it down to a coincidence, you know, cos I was in a car park packed with cars!
So this higher power obviously knew it’d have to do something really out there to convince me it was a real sign.
I got in my car and started the drive home, and at this point, I had forgotten all about the 12 thing and was more concerned with what I was going to have for lunch…mmm!
I took the same turn out of the car park I do every day, waiting for a gap in traffic so I could go. There was nothing different about this journey, except that my eyes were drawn straight to the lamppost on the street opposite.
There was my number 12, staring straight back at me, spray painted on to the lamppost. In a year of driving past that lamppost every day I’d never seen that. I just laughed – and then I got started on putting this blog together.
Since then I still see 12:12 pretty much every single day. I still see 11:11 a lot as well, and some other numbers now too. I started writing them down in my notes app every time I saw them and I’ve got quite the little collection now! 23:23, 14:14, 19:19 – plus so many others and I see them all the time. Not a day goes by when I don’t see one. And every single time, I feel that jolt, that weird feeling, like I’m meant to see it.
If you wanna know more about synchronicity and repeating numbers – read this post.
The moral of the story
If you get little signs like this, take notice of them. Write them down. Do not ignore them. This is proof that the law of attraction is working for you.
These signs can help you stay confident that you’re going to get what you want very soon. By the way, this site has a general explanation for pretty much every repeating number you could see, so if there’s one you that you’ve been suddenly seeing a lot, I recommend you look it up to get a general idea of what it might mean.
So what if you haven’t seen any signs, and you’re pretty sure the law of attraction just isn’t working?
Stay positive! This is THE MOST IMPORTANT time to stay positive. When you can be happy without having what you’ve tried to manifest, this is how you let the universe know that you’re ready for it.
Read success stories – there are so, so many. They will remind you that if it’s possible for these people, it’s possible for you too.
Try these mood boosters – they’re guaranteed to get you back in a positive place if you start to feel demotivated.
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And don’t worry if you had a moment yesterday where you felt frustrated and that it wasn’t working. The law of attraction is all about now. What you do now. What you think now. What you want now. Yesterday doesn’t matter to the universe.
Is it really not working? Or is it just life?
Whether you use the law of attraction or not, there will always be good and bad, and ups and downs in life. ALWAYS. The law of attraction doesn’t magically make everything in life flowers and fairies.
Sometimes the bad in life is necessary to lead you to the good. And everything happens for a reason. So if it seems like something isn’t working out – really stop and think about it. Could this experience be leading you to your desire?
For example – let’s say you wanted to manifest a new job, and then you get fired from your current one and you feel like flipping the universe a big fat V sign.
Before you decide the law of attraction doesn’t work, think about this: maybe the universe is closing that door so you’re able to get the job you really wanted?
Maybe you feel like the law of attraction isn’t working, but remember: it could be unfolding in front of your eyes.
That’s the other thing about the law of attraction: you never know how you’ll receive what you’ve asked for.
Let’s say you want to manifest some money.
You do all the work, and then you proceed to check your bank account every day because you’re sure that’s how you’re going to receive your desire.
This holds you back. Don’t do it, because if you do, you’re missing out on one of the most exciting parts of using the law of attraction: that amazing, weird and crazy feeling you get when you realise you got what you asked for in the most random, unexpected of ways.
Leave it to the universe
There was a phase I went through where I was really bored of being single and wanted a relationship. I did all the work, and then set up a Tinder profile. That was me doing my bit by creating opportunities to meet new people.
I was sure that this was how I was going to get what I wanted. I swiped and swiped and spoke to so many people – none of which were what I was looking for. I ended up getting so frustrated with it that I gave up.
I told my friend I was totally handing my love life over to the universe. I said the universe would find a way to bring my perfect guy to me when the time was right.
It was kind of a joke – I just meant I was giving up Tinder. At the time, I didn’t really have much time to go out and meet people, and without an app like Tinder connecting me directly to guys, I had no idea how I was going to meet anyone. But joke or not, I was just done. I let go of trying to control the situation.
And as soon as I made that decision, I swear I met the most guys I’ve ever met in my life during that time! It was almost too much! LOL.
If I ever find I’m getting stressy or impatient about something I want to manifest or I find I’m TRYING too hard, I just stop and leave it to the universe now. It works!
Take a break from it all
Focus on working on yourself for a little while, spiritually and mentally, but especially spiritually. When you’re good spiritually, you feel more positive and connected to the universe. You’re more open to synchronicity, the signs that make you feel more confident that you’re on the right path.
These things help you calm your mind and relax your body, which can help you connect. A good detox always works well as well. Cut down on alcohol or any other naughty vices you might have for a little bit. You need a clear mind to manifest successfully.
MENTAL WORK: Here’s where the inner work comes in. It’s like retraining your mind. This is key to making the law of attraction work: THOUGHTS BECOME THINGS!!
Start by making a point of teaching yourself to use more positive language by being mindful when you speak. That way, you can catch yourself out and rethink when you go to say phrases like ‘I don’t want’, which can delay manifesting by shifting the focus to what you don’t want, bringing more of that into your reality.
Get rid of any limiting beliefs you might have – you know, ‘I don’t have enough money to do this’ or ‘I’ll never be able to do that’.
To do this, make a list of any limiting beliefs that come up when you think about what you want to manifest. Identifying them, and seeing them in black and white, can help you deal with them better. Then write down your new counter beliefs. The new beliefs you’re taking on.
If you can’t think of any, read about inspirational people, people who do amazing, incredible things, people who go from rags to riches, anyone with a story that motivates you. Surround yourself with people who are positive-minded – their energy is contagious. This will all help you see that anything is possible for you as well.
And you know I’m gonna say it. I talk about it all the time because it’s such a crucial part of the law of attraction. Practice gratitude. Start right now. Start writing down 10 things you’re grateful for every day before bed or when you wake up.
If you can’t be bothered to write them, you could even speak them into your phone’s voice recorder. Do this for a month straight and I promise you, by the end of the month you won’t need to write them down anymore. You’ll start to appreciate everything, and thoughts of gratitude will just come naturally to you.
See if you can get any clearer
Once you’ve taken the break to work on yourself mentally and spiritually, and you feel like you’re in a better space to get started with the law of attraction again, rewrite down whatever it is that you’ve been trying to manifest. Are you being clear enough about what you want?
Think about how you can expand on the desire you’ve written down. And this time, make sure you’re describing the feeling of what you want, not just what you want.
Don’t tell the universe you want to be a millionaire, or that you want a million pounds. Tell the universe you want to feel financially free and spend money without ever having to doubt or worry.
Really think about what you want and why you want it. Think about how you’re going to feel when you get it, and add that to your list.
Really getting into the feeling is what makes the law of attraction work. When you can identify the feeling, you’re one step closer to actually feeling like you have what you’re asking for. And:
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