There’s a topic I see coming up constantly in law of attraction forums and even in my DMs from time to time! And so, I’ve decided to spill the tea on everything I know regarding the subject. If you have ever wanted to manifest a specific person using the law of attraction, this post is for you.
Can it be done? Should it be done? How do you do it?
Let’s just throw the question of whether it can be done in the bin right now, because you already know that you can manifest pretty much anything using the law of attraction. I always say that if you can see it in your mind, you can see it in your life.
The desires we have are not by chance – they come from deep within us, the part of us that already knows and believes we can have them. There’s nothing in this life that we can’t have, at least in some form, if we want it.
So yes – you can manifest a specific person using the law of attraction.
But should you?
Should you try to manifest a specific person?
My personal opinion is that your energy would be much better spent trying to manifest something else. Not everyone will agree, but here’s why I really don’t think it’s a good idea.
Firstly – nine times out of ten, I see this question asked regarding an ex. The tenth time it’s a person that’s unavailable for some other reason.
I strongly believe in living in flow with the universe and the energy that’s working in our lives – not forcing against it. If something is meant to happen, it will happen – and living in flow is living with complete trust of that.
You don’t need to go through rituals to manifest anyone because if you’re living in flow, you know that everything is coming together in divine timing and if it’s for your greater good, they will be in your life when the time is right.
You should never have to force a connection with someone
Secondly – forcing never feels good. It feels desperate, it feels painful, it feels frustrating, and it sets you up for disappointment. Doing everything in your power to force something that just isn’t happening creates negative feelings that in turn create resistance, pushing us further away from the very thing that we’re fighting for.
The act of trying to manifest a specific person using the law of attraction may not necessarily seem like forcing something but I believe if Specific Person wants to be, and is meant to be in your life, they will be there.
Simple as that.
Things would align naturally, easily. There’d be no need to try and manifest them – they’d just be there.
Tunnel vision closes you off from the magic of the universe
Thirdly – when I read posts from people asking how to manifest an ex back, their reasons for wanting to do so are usually things like:
- I know he is the one for me, I don’t want anyone else
- I made a mistake when he was in my life before, I’ve learned from it and now I want another chance
- I can’t move on without speaking to him again/I need closure
The problem with this way of thinking is that it creates a fixation on one person when we live in an abundant universe.
Instead of holding our hands up and saying, “OK universe, he’s gone now and I’m ready to heal and learn from this experience so I can attract better, which I know is out there for me,” it’s saying “I can’t be happy until I have this one person back in my life.”
Similar to trying to manifest a lottery win vs a huge abundance of money, attitude A is going with the flow, leaving us with plenty of options to manifest a happy and healthy outcome for ourselves. Attitude B backs us into a corner and closes us off to just one option. Therefore we can’t recognise any blessings or lessons that arise from the absence of this person because our happiness is dependent on having them back.
It’s a bitter pill to swallow but not everyone that enters our life is meant to stay. Some people come for a little while, serve their purpose and go. And when you’re focused on manifesting them back, you’re not focused on learning from the relationship you had and growing in their absence.
If you’re on a journey of personal growth you might find yourself in this position more frequently. Sometimes someone will leave our lives because as our vibration rises they are no longer an appropriate match. It might take our conscious minds longer to realise and accept this but when you’re levelling up, you do tend to see people fall away.
You don’t always need to manifest someone back
The bottom line is – I believe that the issue of people should be left to the universe.
Sometimes they come back anyway, and this can be for a variety of reasons – maybe it’s to test us, maybe it’s that we’ve both grown and our vibrations are in harmony again, maybe it’s to tie up loose ends before we move on for good.
It does happen very frequently without you needing to do anything at all.
But while you’re devoting all of your energy to manifesting that person yourself, you’re blocking the natural manifestation by creating resistance.
The universe already knows what you want. If it’s not happening, you’re being asked to look within and explore what needs to change in order to align with your desire.
The best way to manifest a specific person
We’ve all been there – staring at your phone waiting for them to text, feeling the anxiety when your phone finally beeps and then the disappointment when it’s someone else. Rinse and repeat.
Ever noticed how the minute you give up and go distract yourself with something else, you come back to your phone a while later and the text is there?
Or how the moment you decide to move on from someone and start focusing on something else, they turn up at your door?
Now I know that despite reading everything I’ve said, some of you will still want to manifest that person so I’m going to share a tip on how to do that.
I’ve manifested loads of people into my life by accident – but never have I manifested someone I was continuously focused on.
In fact – the minute I accepted my life as it was in the moment, with the person not in it, wished them happiness and then switched my focus to my own happiness, is when they came.
Honestly, remember who the F you are. You shouldn’t have to put so much effort into having someone in your life, the right person will just be there when the time is right, of their own accord.
Focus on yourself. That’s the best investment of your energy because your vibration is what is going to attract people to you.
And have faith that if you desire this person and they’re meant to be in your life, they will be back. Send them good vibes and switch your focus to manifesting something else so there’s no resistance.
There are people I never even tried to manifest back, despite wanting them in my life. And without me doing anything at all, they came back.
You never know what the universe has in store for you.
What are you really trying to manifest?
When you’re so focused on that one person– you get tunnel vision. Why confine your energy to a dark, cramped and tiny tunnel when there are fields to run through and oceans to swim in out there?
Instead, when you’re trying to manifest a specific person – first ask yourself why?
What is so special about this damn person?
What do you love so much about this person?
What is it about them that makes you feel so good?
Seriously, ask yourself those questions and write down the answers. Focus on every single positive attribute of that person you can think of. Get really specific.
And then you’ll see what it is that you really want. Not the person, but how the person made you feel. That’s what you need to focus on.
Things aren’t working out with Specific Person for a reason, right? So obviously, they weren’t so perfect for you after all. But you can take the things about them that were perfect and focus on manifesting someone with all those qualities you love, someone who makes you feel how they made you feel. And then you might manifest Specific Person – or you might manifest someone even better. Who knows?
When you don’t pin your hopes on one specific person but you keep your focus on what you liked about them, you open yourself up to so much more.
And there is so much more out there for you. Remember that!