We all get down sometimes – and that’s OK. We can’t be happy all the time. What’s important is that you know how to pick yourself up again so you don’t allow the negative feelings and emotions to spiral. I want to talk to you about some very simple and easy ways to raise your vibration and get back to a place of positivity.
Almost all of these things are free and accessible. Some may even seem obvious. But that’s just it:
They’re so easy to do that we often forget to do them – because we forget how good they can actually make us feel. We take these things for granted. We get so caught up in trying to acquire things we think will make us happy – like material objects – that we forget the simple things in life.
When you’re truly feeling down, there’s nothing a material object can do to make you feel better.
This is what can!
1. Slowing down
One question I get asked ALL THE TIME is why I walk so fast. And I really never know how to answer that.
Cos it’s true – I am always rushing. Maybe it’s living in London and the fast pace of life here – I don’t know, but I do have a habit of walking really fast, even when I’m not late for anything!
So a few weeks ago, I was back early from my lunch break and decided to make a point of taking my time. Not deliberately walking slow. Just strolling at a normal, natural speed. And it felt good!
My thoughts were clear and I was able to soak in my surroundings. I felt happy and relaxed. Simply slowing down made all the difference.
Slow down guys. It keeps you calm and really helps with anxiety too – you’ll find your thoughts slow down to a normal pace as you walk, helping you to think clearer and relax.
2. Connect with nature
Our planet earth is beautiful. But most of us are guilty of taking it for granted sometimes. Something as simple as going for a walk through a nice big park can be an incredible experience for your mind and body.
Feeling a cool breeze on your skin and watching the trees sway is heaven on earth after a bad day.
I live near a huge park and it has become my happy place. When I hear about the horrible things happening in the news, taking in the vibrant green of the grass, the beauty of the trees and the scent of the flowers that surround me helps me to remember how beautiful this world is, and how grateful I am to be here.
If you have a garden at home, you could try gardening or planting some seeds. Feeling at one and connected with nature is uplifting because it’s so easy to feel lost in this life.
Connecting with nature reminds you that you’re a part of something huge, something natural, loving and beautiful. You’re a part of something that isn’t man-made – and in 2017, where everything is technology – that feeling can be enchanting.
It literally brings you back down to earth.
3. Nourish your body with food from the earth
Part of being at one with nature is fuelling our bodies with the natural food we’ve been blessed with. I’m not about to give you any diet advice or tell you what you should be eating – I’m definitely no expert in that field! But I do know that there’s something incredible about eating a food that’s grown straight from our earth.
I know that’s not the first thing we crave when we’re feeling down. What most of us really want to eat after a shitty day is chocolate, ice-cream and pizza. Duh.
But you know what really feels good? Eating some fruit, greens, potato – anything that comes from the earth and isn’t processed. Eating this kind of food is another way to help you connect and feel at one with nature.
I recommend eating a food like this at least once a day – even if it’s just an apple or a handful of grapes.
While you’re eating this food, focus on the feeling of gratitude for our planet earth and the food it blesses us with. Also – drink water – another amazing natural source of nourishment and something our body needs.
You’ll feel good because you’re giving your body something it can easily process and use. Your body will react kindly to this, which means no bloating or feeling sick and more energy. When your body feels good, you feel good.
When you feel good, you manifest more things that make you feel good!
4. Just breathe
Next time you’re feeling anxious or stressed, take a few deep breaths. Really deep breaths.
Slowly breathe in all the air you possibly can. Then breathe out, completely emptying the lungs, and repeat. When you’re anxious, or angry or upset, your breathing quickens and so does your mind.
Thoughts race through your mind at a million miles per hour so you can’t think straight. This sometimes leads us to make irrational decisions.
When you slow your breathing down, your mind stops racing. Your thoughts are clearer, and as a result, your body relaxes.
Deep breathing is such a simple tool we can use to reduce stress and anxious moments but we often forget as we get so caught up in things. Life keeps us on our toes, constantly thinking of our next move – but:
5. Get moving
I was going to leave exercise out, as it’s such an obvious one. Everyone knows it makes the body release endorphins, which make you happy. But it’s so effective that I couldn’t write an article like this without mentioning it.
The beauty of using exercise to boost your mood is that it can be as intense as you want it to be. You can do it your way. If you want to sweat it out in the gym, go you! A vigorous workout is a good outlet for any stress and negative emotions.
But if that’s not for you, there are plenty of less taxing ways to get your muscles warm and moving about. A nice walk, a slow jog, swimming or some yoga can work your whole body and make you feel really good.
As you move, feel gratitude for your body. Appreciate everything it does to keep you alive. Appreciate that you have a full, working body that you can exercise when others cannot.
The goal doesn’t have to be ‘weight loss’ or ‘toning up’. The goal is simply to connect with your body and move it mindfully, giving it the attention it needs to perform at its best so you can feel good.
6. Take cold showers
We all know how relaxing a nice, hot steamy shower can be, but did you know a cold one can be just as good?
They do take some getting used to but there are so many benefits to starting your day with a blast of icy cold water.
A cold shower wakes you up – they’re invigorating and refreshing. When I wake up super tired, I’ll often swap a coffee for a freezing cold shower. I always feel so much more ready for the day after a cold shower – a hot one makes me want to go back to sleep!
Cold showers also make your hair shiny and your skin softer.
And that’s all good, but the main reason cold showers have made this list is because they make you feel invincible. If you can stand your first ice cold shower… I mean really – if you can look up at that showerhead, feel the dread and continue to deliberately immerse yourself in freezing cold water – when you could so easily be having a lovely hot shower – you’re sending a powerful message to the brain.
You know it won’t be the most pleasant experience – but you’re feeling the fear and doing it anyway.
If a full on ice shower really isn’t something you want to do, you could try alternate showers – starting with ice cold for a few seconds, then as hot as you can stand it, then ending with cold. Or try finishing a normal shower with a few seconds of cold at the end. Sometimes I do this when I really can’t be bothered!
Start your day feeling energised and revitalised and you’ll be ready to handle anything that’s thrown at you.
7. Listen to music
The effect that music has on our mood is amazing when you really think about it.
Our favourite songs can take us on journeys, back in time to memories and people we thought we’d forgotten.
There’s music to get us pumped up, excited, energised. There’s music for when we’re thinking about love. There’s music for when we’re feeling sad.
When we’re down, it can be tempting to listen to music that matches our mood and just wallow. It’s music we can identify with in that moment, and that feels good. To hear our feelings put into words and sung back to us by a beautiful voice can be very comforting.
But when it’s time to get out of that sad place, turn off the Adele and start blasting your favourite happy tunes instead.
Listening to music you love and associate with positive feelings can take you back to that place of happiness and love.
Another thing I did recently: I changed the alarm tone on my phone to a really nice classical song I found on an Apple music playlist. I used to always wake up in a bad mood because phone alarms are SO ANNOYING – they wake you up in such a brutal way!
Just hearing that tone for a few seconds can instantly piss me off. But this song I use now wakes me up so gently that sometimes I just lay and listen to the song play as I wake rather than hit snooze just to make it stop.
I associate this song with calmness and relaxation so it instantly puts me in a good mood and starts my day off right. I can’t recommend this enough – find a song you like that relaxes you and set it as your alarm tone. I don’t suggest one of your favourite songs as you’ll end up hating it – search for a new song you don’t know that you can use instead.
When’s the last time you went a day without using your phone or your computer, and checking your social media? It’s crazy how much we rely on technology and how big social media is in our lives now.
Something that was once meant to be a fun and convenient way to connect to others is now so influential in our lives that it can affect our moods and our confidence.
We often get so wrapped up in it all that we forget that social media is only what people want to show you – it’s only a fraction of their lives. The constant comparison to others, the competition, the obsessing – it’s unhealthy.
We need to get back to catching up with old friends and family in person – making that effort to physically get up and go and see someone instead of sending a WhatsApp or looking through an Instagram feed to find out if they’re OK.
We need to get back to sitting with our loved ones and having real conversations, absorbing every word and being fully present, without the distraction of our phones and social media.
We need to get back to getting out, meeting people and making real connections with them instead of swiping left and right for people based on their looks.
But let’s be honest – social media isn’t going anywhere – in fact, it’s getting more advanced. And let’s be even more honest – it’s fun, convenient and full of opportunity.
We’ll never get rid of it, but its huge impact on our lives means it’s becoming necessary to take breaks from it. Breaks help us stay grounded and connected to the real world. Every now and then, give yourself a social media break and see how it affects your mood.
24-48 hours without looking at anything. The first stage will be difficult – you’ll feel like you’re missing out on so much important stuff. You’ll feel the gaps in time that you normally fill by staring at your screen. Out of habit, you’ll reach for your phone time and time again.
But once that stage passes, you’ll start to feel light. Free. Like you have so much more time to do something more meaningful.
One of my best friends switched her phone off for 3 days after realising how much of a distraction it had become in her life. She let everyone know a few days before that she’d be unreachable until the end of the week. When she turned her phone back on at the end of her break, she told me:
“I felt like a massive weight had been lifted off my shoulders. I felt like I could just be myself and devote my time to doing the things I wanted – and needed – to do.”
Most of us would feel like we’d lost an arm without our phone. But sometimes we need to look up from the screen and focus on this amazing life we have.
9. Me time
Last, but absolutely not least, is taking some time for yourself. Even if it’s just an hour. Taking some time to do you is crucial.
If you’re someone who gets lonely or hates being alone – this is especially for you. Because you’ve got to learn to be comfortable in your own company.
This is so important because we need alone time to replenish our energy – in the spiritual sense. I believe that we absorb the energies of everyone we come into contact with, which can be draining. That time to yourself is crucial to keep your vibration high and your energy fresh.
I personally love me some me time –it’s essential. I start to feel anxious if I don’t have any time to myself. And the more you do it, the more you’ll learn to enjoy it.
Spend some time with yourself doing whatever it is you like to do. Watch a film, draw, listen to music, pamper yourself, organise your space, meditate. However, you choose to spend the time is up to you. Just enjoy it and embrace the alone time, the time with your own thoughts.
So basically, it’s all about self-care. The standard things we might want to do when we feel down, like get drunk or eat shit, only make us happy temporarily. And do those things even really make us happy at all, or do they mask what we’re really feeling for a few hours?
Long-lasting happiness comes from the inside – how you treat yourself and the little things you do to raise your vibration is what’s really going to lift you up, and keep you up.
So next time you’re feeling down or uninspired, this is what you’re gonna do. Make a conscious decision to feel good, and don’t underestimate the power of the little things. Use the natural resources we’ve been blessed with to ground yourself and remember what’s really important to you. Be kind to yourself.
You got this!
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